Yeah, I wasn't really talking about you in this game, just used Niefel as a likely rush nation, there are others (though not too bad in this line up).
I checked both the maps I suggested, and they are fine.
Stream Lands has a couple starts with only 3 between them, but most are 4, and the 3 only if you know where you are going 
Land of Legends has mostly 5 or 6 with a couple at 4, but someone would have to fix the starts a bit, because some of us will get stuck on the edge, and thus have only 2 neighbors in some cases, which is not good for balance reasons. Even fixing the starts a bit shouldn't force anything closer than 4, but someone besides me should do it, since I'm in the game 
Also of note is that SL is wrap around and LoL is not. For those who care about that. LoL has everyone starting on the outside ring anyway, so you will have 2 neighbors, plus potentially anyone who's quick to go into the center island. But quick isn't for the first 10 turns probably...
There is also The Desert Eye, which is a default map giving us 13.5 land provinces per player, and likely reasonable starts.
So anyway, I think we are going to scrap this current game and restart on a new map. Unless I hear anything to the contrary by tomorrow morning, I will take care of it with whatever map people agree on. Or, we can have wonderloss fix the existing map, but it's still a restart.