Nevertheless, it's a good film. I won't give anything away, don't worry.

And why don't you go? Because as I see it, you've just turned down an invitation from your gf-to-be. That's not good manners. Just look at it this way: if she wants you to be there, then go. It's a good start (I'm assuming this is part of your new "get with Mishayla" drive), and you don't have to start again by going straight into going together. If she figures out you're not going because you won't be able to get with her in front of her family, then she'll think you just want her for yourself.

Honestly, take it slow. Works every time (well, unless she's not into you, but in that case you'll have time to notice before you embarass yourself).

So why dont you go Xer07? What do you have to lose?

Like Snipe said, dont turn her down. If she wants you to be there, then go.

Who else is gonna be in this "group" besides her family?

That would be all.

*sigh*
It's just the simple fact that all of the Toy Story movies make my cry like a newborn.

Mostly due to the fact that the movies focus on friendship and how strong that bond is, a rather sore subject to me.

Xer0 \^/

No, as a matter of fact, she doesn't know that.

Up to this point, I've tried to hide my weaknesses from her, because she's supposed to be the one who's problems I solve, I'm supposed to be the one that she can rely on, and I can't do that if she knows that I'm just a sad depressed little shell of a man.

Xer0 \^/

Hey, I cried at the penultimate ending in the movie and my crush didn't think less of me. Try this motto: If IFear can screw up and live, then so caan you.

Then again, it's not really screwing up. I'd had the first film since it came out and have grown attached to the characters over the years.

So what. Pretending your something that your not will just get you in trouble

Xer07 the best thing you could do, for her AND for you, is:

Go to the movie but do not cry or anything. Do what you always do and dont show your rather sensitive side to her.

But, dont stop there. You need to try to make all your problems disappear, including these "friendship" wounds you mentioned.

You say its a sore subject for you, I say its a psychological wound.

What I really wanted to say is, that over the years you not only have solved Mishayla's problems for her, but somehow made them your own. You do everything you can for her, and absorb all this sadness, all this misery.

Stop being like that. Its all in your mind. You are not sad or miserable or whatever else, unless you want to be. Try to be in control of your emotions, instead of letting them control you.

You have gone this far choosing the rough road, filled with rocks and snakes. Now change direction and choose the easy way. The highway.

Thats right, I am telling you to start looking out a little for yourself, because frankly, like you said in the past, you're pretty much an emotional tampon for her.

You CAN do everything. Care for her, as much as for yourself. Do both, and at least you wont be miserable.

Once you realize, at some point in your life, that the human mind is capable of such greatness, as well as the opposite, then you can be free of the chains that hold you.

Now, I made a suggestion about the whole movie thing, but you probably cant do that. Well, in that case, Altaux is fairly correct. IF you're gonna be with her some time in the future, she is gonna find out, one way or another.

So, to summarize, and to say "if I were in your shoes", being you, then I would let her know of the real Dakota, in spite of the repercussions. Whats the worst thing that can happen? She stops being friends with you just because of that? I dont think so. IF she stopped being friends with you because of your sensitiveness, then that means she is using you all this time, and that she isnt a real friend to you. But I am sure that is not the case.

QFT   Do that. Let her know.

Its all in your mind Xer07. (how many times have I said that?)

That would be all.

This whole inferiority complex is all in your head. It doesnt exist. Get rid of it. "How?" You ask. Well first of all by realizing that you are no different than other people. Theoretically you are equal to other people. And practically, I can find you a million reasons as to why, not only you are equal to other people, but superior.

Moreover, you have some qualities that you take them for granted, that other people cant even grasp them, cant even slightly have them. Morality, loyalty, kindness, selflessness, honesty, humility, and a few others I am not going to list atm.

You have absorbed Mishayla's problems, by solving each one of her day to day problems, having the satisfaction of helping her, but get nothing in return. Each time you help her with one of her problems, you do it completely selflessly, expecting and getting nothing in return. Also, when you solve 1 of her problems, you make it your own, putting yourself in her shoes, and when her problem is solved you feel incomplete, because it wasnt your problem in the first place.

In addition, each time you help her with one of her problems, she is gonna go back to her gf or bf (you said she used to date guys), and you feel used, rejected.

The 2nd and 3rd reasons I mentioned, I am not entirely sure, but the 1st (getting nothing in return) I am sure about.

I understand that your problems are in the past. I understand that you had some rough times in your life, and that the lack of a real father never helped the situation. But you need to leave the past behind you sometime. You have to let it all go. I know it is difficult to let some things go, because they are rooted deep inside you. But I never said it is easy. I just said that it is possible.

Hmm....talking about marriage eh? You have even thought about marrying her at this age? You sir are sooooo much in love with her.

Dont worry about being perceived as weak. Show her your sensitiveness, and make her worry about you a little, but not too much. Trust me, her worrying about you is a good thing, especially when she realizes that she cares for you. If she worries about you, then she cares, and that can evolve to something even greater, such as love.

All this time, Mishayla, your crush, your love, doesnt know about you. Show her. Let her know the real Dakota. You cant lose her as a friend just because of this. You already have been there for her so many times, for so many years, that I dont think she is gonna abandon you like your past friends you mentioned.

"Take a risk, take a chance, make a change" - Karma if you find where that quote is from.

That would be all.

It is actually

I dont even know what it is.

That would be all.

He he, everyone relates to Xer07 somehow

Btw, I stand for what Altaux said: You reach out to people, Xer07. Dont stay in your shell.

That would be all.

gone bedding

What the hell is phighing?

That would be all.